My name is John, and I have been on a journey of self-discovery for over 40 years.
Recently, I found myself facing a crisis that shook me to my core. My wife and I were on the brink of divorce, after two decades of marriage, and it felt like my world was falling apart. I was desperate for a solution, and that’s when a trusted friend recommended this technique to me.
At first, I was skeptical. But something in me told me to give it a chance, and boy, am I glad I did. I devoured the training materials, consuming one lesson after another, at a pace that would have taken months for most people. But I was in a hurry to find a solution, and I felt like I was running out of time.
Then I discovered the exercise that helped me to understand the root of my problem!
After reading it, it was like a lightbulb went off in my head. The first question it asked me was, “Whom did you take offense at?”
And without hesitation, I knew the answer: my wife.
The next step was to visualize my internal image of the person who offended me, and this is where things got interesting. Despite having a degree in fine arts, visualization has never come easy to me. But with some deep breathing and relaxation, I was able to form a vivid picture in my mind – of snarling, angry teeth, like a dog trying to bite me. It wasn’t surprising, really – our family dog had bitten me twice before, and I guess that image had stuck in my head.
But then came the real breakthrough. I learned to remove guilt from the equation and take responsibility for my own offense. I realized that I had allowed myself to be offended by my wife, and that the offense was mine to own, no matter how she was behaving.
It was a profound and powerful realization, and it led me to a newfound sense of freedom and clarity.
I saw that by blaming my wife for the divorce, I was actually freeing myself from the guilt and responsibility. It was her fault, not mine. She was the ‘bad girl,’ and I was the victim. And the more I talked to my family and friends about how ‘wrong’ she was, the more sympathy and love I received, which was what I really craved. But now I realized that this was just a subconscious desire to protect myself from pain.
The process guided me towards the truth of my subconscious desire, and I was able to accept it freely and without guilt. I felt the tension and stress, but I came out the other side, fully owning my belief and my role in creating the divorce.
It was a powerful and liberating experience, and it has transformed my life in ways I never imagined.
Today, I have a deep level of honesty with myself and others, and I take responsibility for my inner and outer actions. Now I feel that my life is better than good thanks to this technique!